On a basement bookshelf of my home sits a framed photograph I’d forgotten about until recently. In that picture, I’m beaming in cap and gown, flanked on either side by my smiling parents as we stand in the backyard garden of a former landlord’s property. That day was muggy and hot (not surprising for May in South Carolina), and I remember my nervous anticipation on that celebratory afternoon–the kind of feeling where you’re not sure if your stomach is buoyed with breathless excitement or clenched in apprehension…or, more likely, both. Either way, you’re holding your breath a bit more than usual.
While milestone moments can seem cliched to focus on, they do often define real junctures, and mine that afternoon certainly did.
I had made all sorts of plans, convinced that I needed to map things out in particular ways. Some of those plans would take dramatic turns I could not yet imagine and most assuredly would not have signed up for. Other parts would morph and unfold far more powerfully and beautifully than I could have sketched out on that May afternoon.
Among the many adventures that I was about to embark on: beginning a graduate program in literature and learning “officially” to teach through pedagogy coursework and through the mother of all learning–critical, sometimes painful experience. All of 22 years old and only a handful of months removed from my own college graduation, I would don blazers and heels to feel more authoritative in those Texas university classrooms as a graduate instructor.
My anxiety to underscore my competence (while understandable) belied the potent force behind transformative teaching and learning: generous reciprocity. I needed–and eventually would come to appreciate–a necessary shift in posture, an openness to being shaped, challenged, and strengthened by the community around me (which I could not control or even fully plan for). Balancing an evolving awareness of and gratitude for self and world is no easy matter; indeed, it proves a fragile, precious thing vital to our own development.
Early in his stunning, slim volume Let Your Life Speak, Parker Palmer writes:
With twenty-one words, carefully chosen and artfully woven, May Sarton evokes the quest for vocation–at least, my quest for vocation–with candor and precision:
Now I become myself.
It’s taken time, many years and places.
I have been dissolved and shaken,
Worn other people’s faces…
What a long time it can take to become the person one has always been! How often in the process we mask ourselves in faces that are not our own. How much dissolving and shaking of ego we must endure before we discover our deep identity–the true self within every human being that is the seed of authentic vocation.
Later in the same chapter, Palmer hints that this process of “authentic” self-discovery is never one of rugged individualism (certain US cultural narratives be damned), but rather something inextricable from the relationships and communal ecosystem surrounding us. We discover and respond to both this sense of self and world, growing and evolving in an always ongoing journey of life-giving reciprocity.
I’ve been thinking more about Palmer lately, in part because of some other work I’m involved in and in part because I’m daily reminded of impending graduations. Our soon-to-be alumni are making the rounds to say goodbye, to share life updates, and to tend to the many details that accompany a leavetaking and life “threshold” moment. These graduates have insight into the delicate balance of “self” and “world” in ways I find admirable and inspiring. They are preparing to lead and especially to serve with grace, humility, and honesty.
In two days’ time, this Friday, May 9th, at 5pm you have the opportunity to see what I mean. Graduating seniors Kuda Chikonyora, Noemi Vela, and Natalya Reister will speak at Baccalaureate–a ceremony preceding Saturday’s commencement programs and one that literally comes full circle from graduates’ convocation four short years ago. Gathering in the Chapel of the Resurrection, standing before the mosaic of sacred stories pieced together in stunning stained glass, each will offer their own story as they reflect on their time at Valpo and the myriad ways they have been shaped by and come to understand the value of community and service.
Kuda heralds this gift as ubuntu, noting the reciprocal showing up and supportive learning animated in robust communities. For Noemi, cultivating one’s self-knowledge and respect engenders honest engagement with the wider world, nurturing boundaries that revitalize relationships. Natalya reflects that ‘service,’ properly understood, is not so much a way of doing as a way of being–something that radiates outward to reinforce in a million small ways what ultimately adds up to both an inheritance and a legacy.

Natalya Reister

Kuda Chikonyora

Noemi Vela
Would that we all remember and honor these charges from our eloquent student speakers. We discover ourselves and our calling in service–the deep, honest, reciprocal engagement with the community and world around us. It is a gift we imperfectly proffer, and in so doing must also gracefully receive.
– Dr. Anna Stewart, Director of the Institute for Leadership and Service
The Institute for Leadership and Service is dedicated to preparing students for lives of leadership and service—lives shaped by a sense of calling, equipped for thoughtful reflection, engaged in the larger world, and responsive to its deepest challenges.
















I would like to invite you into a journaling activity this week. We at the Institute for Leadership and Service like to promote reflection. We think of it as a muscle we can exercise. You know, how strong muscles are just kind of “nice to have” until one day when you need to move a couch or pick up a child, and then those muscles become absolutely necessary. Similarly, reflection may seem superfluous, until the day we kind of just need to know what we think about a subject.
The longer I’m at Valpo, the more I’ve come to appreciate the rituals that bookend our academic year. (Twenty year-old me would not have predicted this.) I enjoy donning those odd, medieval robes, hood, and tam to line up and process down the magnificently long aisle of the Chapel in August, organ music swelling the usually thick, humid air as we welcome new students and the return of the academic calendar’s cycle. This year the cool weather granted us all a reprieve at Convocation–merciful when you’re attired in a polyester and velvet concoction.

Over the course of this summer and my internship at Erie House, one thing has became ever more clear to me each time I wake up and head to work: any number of individually insignificant factors can decide whether or not it’ll feel like a good day. For example, it could be cloudy but not raining, my bus is on time, and I have an extra minute to grab coffee before I clock in. That’s already a good day. Just as much, if it’s raining without an umbrella, both of my bus rides get delayed, and I have to show up twenty minutes late, that’s kind of a rough start.
Today is my last day of my CAPS summer fellowship at Heartland Alliance. I look around the office. It’s quiet, a normal Friday morning as people mostly elect to work remotely before the weekend. Regardless, while everyone goes about their day, I sit here reflecting on some of the things I have learned this summer about both the work I have gotten to be a part of in refugee resettlement and as part of a non-profit at large in Chicago, IL.
‘I don’t know.’: the response that never feels good enough. Whether it is an answer to what you want, why you started, or what you plan for the future, few leave a conversation satisfied when you say ‘I don’t know’. But I, personally, don’t know a lot of things. I am a very indecisive person; I like to do a lot of things, and I don’t mind doing a lot of things, so, while some people might call me a people pleaser, I would say I’m just really adaptable. I want what others want because I would be content with either.
A lot of people think that I am a shy person. But really, I am just an anxious person, and that results in me thinking and rethinking through any possible implications and consequences of any actions or words before doing or saying them. And when I do not pre-think through them, I will post-think through them afterwards. Or both, which can really slow an interaction. Shockingly enough, that kind of hesitation comes across as shy.
Just like at Valpo, the Grünewald Guild has a walking labyrinth outside, just beyond their central building and right next to the river. Anyone can use it at any point of the day, or night even. I actually heard from someone that they went out to walk it at night and stargaze. We use it during our final Vespers service of each program week too; to meditate on all the things we’ve learned from the week, to center ourselves and find a few minutes of peace and quiet inside our busy bodies.
As I’m finishing out my internship here at the Guild with only one week left, I’m looking back on the memories I’ve made with the people and the land around me. Some experiences have opened new doors for me that I’d like to keep open as I come back to Valpo. Others have shown me interesting perspectives and walks of life that add to my understanding of the world and how I engage with it. I think I’ll be visiting our labyrinth at Valpo a lot more often next year.
As of late July, I have served as a Communications Intern at Grünewald Guild in Leavenworth, WA for two months as part of my placement as a member of the CAPS Fellows Program. Through working in this position, I have exponentially grown to further refine my vision for my vocation as I approach the final year of my academic career at Valparaiso University. The mission of the guild is highlighted through the three core values of art, faith, and community and, since I am a Music and English major, I initially thought I would gravitate my attention mostly towards the value of art during my time here. Surprisingly, that was not that case and I started to primarily focus upon the aspect of community involvement and how it uniquely manifests itself at this non-profit organization. By nature, I have more of an introverted demeanor and it often takes me a bit of time to feel comfortable with expressing myself in a new environment. Interestingly enough, I did not feel as timid as I typically do during a transitional period of my life, and I think that lack of apprehension I felt is due to the Guild deliberately being a welcoming and community-oriented environment by its very design. 
Reconnecting with my high school viola teacher after three years brought up her valid question of, “Any updates with what you want to do with your life?” When I replied, “Well, I want to apply for programs to study or teach in another country for a year… Then possibly grad school for something ‘international’…” we both had to pause and laugh; nothing had changed in the three years since we’d last talked. I still didn’t have a set plan.
As I near the end of my time at Jacob’s Ladder, I am once again given the chance to reflect on the different experiences and opportunities I have been given this summer. Among all the different opportunities that I have had at my placement, the ones that stick out the most to me are those where I could attend other meetings/events in the community. All of the events that I attended gave me the chance to meet new people, have meaningful discussions with others, and learn new information. These events helped me get out of my comfort zone and learn new information that I will carry with me far beyond my time at Jacob’s Ladder.
At the beginning of June, I moved to a town I had never visited, to live in a house I had never seen, and to work with people I had only spoken to over Zoom. My family dropped me off, and once I had all of my things arranged, I sat on the bed and had a strange but very familiar feeling wash over me: What do I do now? I had the whole night ahead of me, but everyone I know and everything I do was scattered everywhere but here. The empty span of time ahead of me felt dizzying. So, I just sat there in the what-now feeling, thinking. I began to think about why this feeling was so familiar to me, and I thought of all of the other transitions I have had like this throughout my whole life: from the five times I moved as a kid, to the move into college, to my trip studying abroad, I began to realize that this is all old hat to me. I have done this before, and sure enough, I have done this again.
As my internship draws to a close, I’m faced with the same question that I begin the internship with. Why am I working with an environmental non-profit, what difference could I ever make?
My opinions do matter, and it is possible to voice them loudly. Like a small rock making waves in a pond, a grass growing in the middle of a cracked sidewalk, a bee pollinating the vegetables in a neighborhood garden. My voice is not as small as I have been made to believe.