Mob Mentality: Lessons from traveling in a large group

For a total sixteen people, moving as a cohesive group can be a challenge, not only for us but also the innocent bystanders that cross our path. We made the journey from O’hare to Heathrow smoothly and without complication; it seemed that we were good at this.

But as the hours ticked away, the rush of events took a toll on us. Jet lagged and irritated, group travel began to wear on us culminating in a bus-stop quarrel that left us fragmented for the night.

To help cope and possibly eliminate the stresses of group travel, here are the lessons I’ve learned thus far.

Identify Trip Goals

The group needs to be conscious of each individual’s goals. One person wants to see the London Tower and another wants to see Buckingham Palace. Making these goals clear before the trip starts gives clarity and shape to the trips itinerary. These goals don’t always have to be “sights” either; my roommate Andrew and I were intent on trying Scottish haggis while we were in Edinburgh. A cohesive set of goals for a trip can also help identify places where the group may need to split up and go separate ways for a couple hours.

Don’t take things personally

Especially in the planning stages – booking hostels, reserving train seats, deciding departure times – voices will be raised and conversation may cross into argument. Always be ready to take a breathe and shake it all off. Remember, if a fellow traveler says, “I’m not that interested in seeing that,” he or she is certainly not saying, “I think you’re idea is just plain stupid.” It’s okay to split up to see and do different things.

Know when (and when not) to compromise

Compromise can be a cliche topic, but it is still important to mention. At the risk of sounding crass, when traveling I think compromise should be of strategic value to you. Be ready to bargain and haggle – to give a little and to stand your ground when it matters.

Be prepared to go it alone

Traveling alone does carry some risk, but it should never be ruled out. With a sharp and observant mind, traveling alone can be an liberating and enlightening experience – all the while still being safe. Anecdotally, I think the world is a much safer place than we’re typically led to believe.

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Traveling in groups can be stressful, but never forget that it can just as rewarding. Be prepared to work and your trip shall be a success!